Ms Ebe: as you are once again known, this is for the past. All the harm you caused, all the lies you told, will be coming back to haunt you. The consequences of your behaviour will be shortly known not only within my close circles, not only within the Whittington Hospital in London, but around the world. I know that the truth will be told, and will be known, for it is I who shall tell the history. I will tell the story with a degree of accuracy and truthfulness - from which we can only dream from a politician, to the world.
My former wife recently sank to new depths of depravity in her behaviour - lying to me to try to obtain money by deception. For none of it were ever any aberration. The reason I have kept silent for so long, the reason it took so long for me to leave the UK, the reason I have written this book, the reason I have transitioned into a fully international man, is because UK family law colludes in, aids, and abets, abuse of this kind. I helped her to legalise her immigration status, allowing her to live, work and keep the family together in the UK under the protection of a British citizen, and tried to do the responsible thing by marrying her. Yet how did she repay me? Through a decade of physical, emotional, psychological and financial abuse. She even tried weaponising the police and social services, not to mention the CMS. Yet on top of all this abuse, all the lies, all of the betrayals, her wanton disregard for all moral standards and for social norms, she once had a new tactic of telling one of my daughters she was an unwanted child and her father wanted her aborted, which in itself constitutes psychological abuse. Social services were duly informed. I saw the abuse now extended to my children. And remember, that (even only as witnesses) - children are innocent victims.
My abuser was stupid. She miscalculated me. She knew astonishingly little about me after ten years. This was by virtue of her having no interest in me as a person. For I "Lazy man, weak man, useless man" was in her eyes nothing more than a necessary evil; a means to an end. The reality could hardly have been more different. Had she opened the history books, had she ever been in any way Interested in me at a personal level she might have thought very carefully about how I react to intimidation. The height of foolishness and complacency is to mistake leniency for weakness.
Is it any coincidence that, once her second husband left her, and my elderly mother was in a care home (burning up my, and – more importantly - my children's - inheritance at £3500+ per month) that she suddenly and cynically, wanted me back? After all she did to me? To reimpose her reign of terror – oh, and to steal my family's wealth, naturally?
In fact, if you care about your reputation, if you are serious about seeing a bright future, if you care about the future of your daughters, there is one person you never put in a trap...
Up until now I have maintained silence for security reasons and to wait for my daughters, who will remain my daughters forever – no matter what the lies you told them - to grow up sufficiently. I awaited the time they became old enough to tell them the full story; I finally told them before I left to teach in China. I say now to her- If you had taken any interest in me as a person, if you had learnt my history, if you had read between the lines, you might have known and understood how I would react to intimidation, and you might have guessed, subsequently, why your plans have failed. Above all else you would have known of my refusal to be beaten. The fact that I am prepared to fly halfway round the world to a place where hard work actually counts for something; and where the stranglehold of the UK and its extortion can be left half a world away, to remarry and start a new family at my age demonstrates my resolve. Interfere at your peril. The fact that my daughters inform me of their unhappiness at home on a regular basis is testimony to how narcissism and abuse can – and will - never triumph in the end. Indeed, the reason I wrote this book is is due to a problem of perception – that fathers should have fewer rights, that males cannot be victims – as well as perpetrators – of abuse, testifies to my strength and resolve. For my aim is to give the lie to that and bring the issue to the attention of the public.
As to family law in the United Kingdom, I can show no gratitude whatsoever. For this too, is no aberration. The reason this has taken so long, the reason I had to live discretely - even secretively - until I left the UK, the reason I had to maintain tight security at all times, the reason fathers are excluded from their children's lives, the reason that parents, whose children love them (- in practice normally their fathers, as shown in statistical truth) - become homeless and commit suicide - is because UK family law discriminates against fathers and does not recognise those such as myself as the abuse victims they indeed are. Indeed the police once forced entry into my home whilst I was at work as I was suicidal.
For this reason, I have left the UK permanently. I have no wish to be a wage slave to my abuser in an expensive country for the rest of my life. And bad - and nonetheless truthful - publicity is not only a powerful weapon, but a powerful tool for change.
To those who drafted UK family law, your ideas are based on mere supposition, stereotypes and on politically motivated ideology which would befit a banana republic - and not on the reality of the life of an abuse victim of which I am, but one, example of many. You have presided, over the course of so many years - and through rose tinted spectacles - over a shambles of a piece of legislation which condemns thousands per year (almost invariably) to estrangement, alcohol, poverty, homelessness and, ultimately, suicide. I submitted a freedom of information request to obtain statistics, and those statistics are jaw-dropping. This should come as no surprise to anyone. For the UK is an expensive and incompetently run country which extracts every penny from the population which it can, yet makes excuses - and pays mere lip service - when it comes to providing the public services which the tax is ostensibly for.
For so long, I have played ignorance and stupidity merely as a survival strategy. But your ideology is set in illusion just as is your legislation, and I hope to reveal this - as reflected in my publicity campaign which I will run from overseas. I will, once I have saved to begin the business, be going on to Africa as the saviour of families - a worthy alternative to being a slave to a system of management which would disgrace a narcotics cartel.
Now - if god is willing, I will in the next year or two find myself at the head of a new and modern family. The family may be African in character, but it will be a modern 21st century family with a modern way of life, with an Englishman at the helm. It is time to reject the past and move on into the future.
And when we begin, from the day I arrive at my final destination, it will come as a new beginning to sweep the past away. And I fully and sincerely intend to make it a family and future in which we can all be proud...
Now as the exposure of the truth will demonstrate, an old life of betrayal is dead and gone forever, and a new one is born today. A new life is under construction, growing in Africa - and you have seen nothing yet.